Perspective

Throughout the whole planning process, I've been trying, REALLY trying, to keep things in perspective.  And I daresay that with less than 6 months to go, with the only hiccup being mis-communications with printer about the save the date, I've done a darn good job.

There are a good number of people out there who forget to do this.

Believe me.  I spend time on the Weddingbee and the Knot discussion forums.  I've seen EVERY question, each more irrational than the next.

We brides sometimes seem to forget that the world doesn't stop for our weddings.  People have babies, get new jobs, our own jobs must keep going in our absence.  Yes, it is an important day.  But it is not the MOST important day.  A marriage is more than a wedding.  A wedding is one day.  Marriage is (hopefully) for a lifetime.

I'm an easy-going person.  So easy-going, in fact, that when one of my co-workers asked me last week about wedding planning, he interjected "I sometimes wish you were more of a bridezilla - this conversation would be much more entertaining."

Sorry to disappoint.

I know, I know.  The teeny tiny details matter to brides.  Their flower order getting screwed up, their bridesmaids getting knocked up, the cake being the wrong frosting shade of cobalt - these all matter.  For about a second.  No one will notice the flowers.  Ditto the cake.  That bridesmaid who is suddenly expecting?  Congratulate her and bend over backwards to make sure she's comfortable the day of the wedding.

Your wedding will be memorable no matter what.

The more anal-retentive you are towards others - vendors, bridal party, guests, the more you will be remembered negatively.

BUT.

The more gracious, polite, and positive you are, the more people will recall fondly your day of days.